Ever sense
Dolly has come into my life she has possessed the keen ability to push all of
my buttons. I've lost track of the times
I've completely lost it when working with her and thus responded to her in
anger and frustration never to accomplish what I'd hoped. Even though I do not like to admit it, she is
a window into my soul as she provides the vehicle upon which to project many of
the aspects of myself that I disown.
I tend to
under appreciate her and favor my other horses.
In truth though, she is a horse for which to be grateful. While my other two horses, Trooper who is
still with me and Mack who crossed over the rainbow path, are mostly very
amiable and willing to comply with the least suggestion, Dolly has her own mind
and prefers to have it her way. Because
of Mack's and Trooper's likeable personalities, being with them has been more pleasurable. Yet, it is Dolly who has steadfastly been the
mirror that reveals the parts of the self I don't want to see. For that, I am learning to appreciate her as
well as coming to see her unique qualities.
This morning
she and I had what I would consider a major break-through. Without a lead rope, halter, whip, or any
kind of device she learned to follow my lead rather than take the lead
herself. Albeit, we were going where she
wanted to go and she still will not follow me just to follow me. Nevertheless, having her politely and cordially
follow my lead is something new and brings a different dimension to our
relationship.
This morning
I decided it was time that she comes to understand that her behavior is not
appropriate and that following me can be a rewarding and fulfilling
experience. I know she is smart so I was
pretty certain it would not take her long to figure out that the only way she
was going to get to the grassy paddock was by amicably following me. Sure enough, after only four attempts, she
realized that running ahead of me was not going to get her what she wanted.
Each time
she ran ahead of me I stopped, turned around, and returned to the barn. I stayed at the barn waiting until she
returned from the paddock gate to fetch me. By the fifth time, she was like another horse. As we walked to the gate, she kept her head
just past my shoulder no matter what my pace.
Even when I stopped, she maintained the perfect distance and position
patiently standing until I started walking.
When we arrived at the gate, rather than rushing through it as soon as
it was opened, she waited patiently until I gave her the okay to enter.
Working with
her in gentle peacefulness and trusting that she would figure out the puzzle on
her own was rewarding and affirming. I'll
see how it carries over to tomorrow. It
will probably require some reinforcement but I expect it will not take much and
we now have a more solid platform from which to develop a better and more cordial
relationship.
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